truly be happy in life, learn
how to count joy.
Undoubtedly you've heard and even quoted
these familiar and wise utterances: "Count your blessings." "Be happy with what
you have." "Your health is the most important thing in life." But do we abide by these sayings? Do we really
count our blessings or do we take them for granted? I will be the first to
admit that I am guilty of taking them for granted sometimes and not counting
them as joy. So let the record show that I am admitting it and quitting it. How
economy is one way that so many of us came to realize what was really important
in life and in business. Each
day is a new challenge but I am gaining the victory. Life
is a series of choices and you make choices daily. The good news is you can
too! You get to decide whether to be "Better or Bitter." Let's
face it, we are living in stressful times, surrounded by a host of negative
influences. All of those can steal your joy in a flash. You must guard your
heart and the things you hold dear. However one can choose to reject, replace,
rethink, reposition, or rebalance, recapture, reflect on or rejoice in the
goodness that we have been afforded.
Happiness is a great emotion but it’s a
fleeting one, a feeling that is often temporary.
Ever luxuriate in the happiness of purchasing a dream car you always wanted or
some other longed for item. What an awesome feeling. But how long did that
happiness last? A day, a week, a month? What you want to experience is not
happiness but true joy. Joy is different! Joy comes from making the right
choices. You choose to be content, you choose to be satisfied, you choose to be
positive no matter what.
does not allow past or current circumstances to get in the way. Never! In fact,
joy is not attached to circumstances. Joy lives in the present not in the past
or the future. It's contagious much the same as misery!
Think about this, "Where will that
brand new car we spoke about wind up in 50 years and what do you really have
that’s guaranteed except the present?: True joy knows. I have learned through bitter lessons that no
one owns tomorrow. Joy knows that as well. A man comes into the world with
nothing and leaves with nothing. Do you really believe that money can buy you
joy? If so, I disagree. I think it can buy you some temporary happiness but it
definitely cannot buy you joy. You might only be one X-ray away from
realizing that within a moment your life can be drastically altered. So why do
we take all our blessings for granted? Where does the difficulty lie? I think
there are a few reasons for not realizing our blessings.
Our busy-ness has created such an imbalance in our lives that we don't have
time to give it enough thought.
We never think, "It could happen to me." We often don’t feel that we
deserve it. But we do.
We seem to want to think we have it worse than the next guy. My dad use to say,
"Son, you will always meet folks with more and you'll meet folks with
We compare ourselves to everyone else. Other people become our standard. The
truth is your value is not attached to what you do for a living or how much you
make. Value comes from within.
I don't mean to make "choice"
sound easy. As I said it is work, like swimming upstream against the current.
Just keep practicing it and soon it will become a little easier and you'll be
floating down stream wearing your "joy" on your face.
believe, is a recipe for acquiring a joyful spirit:
1. Reject negative people. Do not allow them in.
Rethink what's most important to you. Then ask why.
Reflect on those things.
Replace anything or anyone who's trying to steal your joy.
Re-balance so the things that are important to you are in first place.
it. It's all a choice.
Greta Schulz is president of Schulz Business SELLutions in West Palm Beach, FL. She is the author of "To Sell is Not to Sell" and a columnist for business journals around the country. Greta does corporate training for Fortune 1000 companies and she has an on-line training course for entrepreneurs.
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